As a teenager, one of the things that stresses me out most are the expectations that people have for me. My parents want me to be their perfect, AP, straight A student, while my friends want me to just be like them, carefree and fun-loving. All the while I'm just trying to find myself! Its one of the most stressful things I deal with on a duly basis. Whatever I do, I will end up disappointing someone, even if that someone is me! I try hard to be all these ideas, but they don't really mesh well. I just end up feeling like I'm getting stretched to fit all these different people, which I can never quite fit anyway. Unfortunately, I have yet to find any tips to deal with this problem yet, but I can say that balance has been working for me so far, at least part way. So, I have this theory that no one fits in a single box; you're not just a jock, or only a nerd, but you can have one foot in each box; you can be a nerdy jock. So, instead of just trying to be my parents perfect straight A student or my friends carefree teenager, I take my favorite aspects of each, and make it my own. Heres what I mean: While sometimes its nice to just go with the flow and enjoy time with friends, I defiantly not the type of person that can be completely carefree. I tend to over think the future if anything. And likewise, as much as I want to get good grades and be a good student, there's other things out there that are also important to me. So, I try to find the balance between the two, an aspiring to be a good student, who gets decent grades, but also enjoy the carefree time that I have now. No extremes for me! I take the more "middle of the road" approach.
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Expectations
As a teenager, one of the things that stresses me out most are the expectations that people have for me. My parents want me to be their perfect, AP, straight A student, while my friends want me to just be like them, carefree and fun-loving. All the while I'm just trying to find myself! Its one of the most stressful things I deal with on a duly basis. Whatever I do, I will end up disappointing someone, even if that someone is me! I try hard to be all these ideas, but they don't really mesh well. I just end up feeling like I'm getting stretched to fit all these different people, which I can never quite fit anyway. Unfortunately, I have yet to find any tips to deal with this problem yet, but I can say that balance has been working for me so far, at least part way. So, I have this theory that no one fits in a single box; you're not just a jock, or only a nerd, but you can have one foot in each box; you can be a nerdy jock. So, instead of just trying to be my parents perfect straight A student or my friends carefree teenager, I take my favorite aspects of each, and make it my own. Heres what I mean: While sometimes its nice to just go with the flow and enjoy time with friends, I defiantly not the type of person that can be completely carefree. I tend to over think the future if anything. And likewise, as much as I want to get good grades and be a good student, there's other things out there that are also important to me. So, I try to find the balance between the two, an aspiring to be a good student, who gets decent grades, but also enjoy the carefree time that I have now. No extremes for me! I take the more "middle of the road" approach.
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