Love yourself!

Yes, it sounds so cheesy. But its true! Being a girl, I always find something I don't like. My thighs are to big, my pores are huge, my hairs so frizzy, there's always something. And its horrible! It never makes me, and any one else I imagine, feel good just focusing on the negative things all the time. All it does is bum me out and stress me out, niether of which I like to feel. And though its hard, the best way to battle this kind of stress, is yes, cheesy as it sounds, to learn to love yourself. In this link, the author shares her story and some great tips about accepting yourself, so check it out! But I thought i'd also share my story, just cause sometimes its nice to hear that other people have the same things as you happening to them to. Well at least I think so haha. But anyway, when I went into high school, all my friends were athletes, and looked like it. No one was bigger then a size one, and I was at least a 5 maybe a 7. They all had soft, straight hair and no problem with pimples. I had frizzy hair and acne. So I hated standing next to them, they always made me feel so ugly. I would get so upset over it and always try some new hairstyle, exercise, whatever to make me prettier. And it only got worse when they all got dates to the first dance and I didn't. But one day, I just got so fed up with always being so self conscious. I was getting to the point where I wouldn't do anything for fear of being judged. And it sounds crazy, but once I decided "Who Cares?!" I begin to feel more comfortable with myself. I still had slip ups, and fats days, but I was doing more and having so much more fun. And the crazy part, is that people noticed. People weren't shy around me any more, instead they reflect my confidence and were more fun too. And today, I still haven't perfected my hair or lost all the weight I would like too, but instead I value myself for what I am. I'm a great friend, a good student, and can rock sweats like nobody else :)
So just know, if you ever feel down your not the only one!

Applications on applications

Like many other seniors at this time of year, I am in the process of applying to college. I knew it would be work, but I had no idea just how much work goes into applying to  colleges! I already feel like I have so much going on with senior activities, class work and clubs, it seems impossible to add the extra load of writing essays, filling out form after form and being sure to stay on top of all the different application materials. If you're anything like me, you're probably under A LOT of stress too. While there's not much I have in the way of tips to make applying easier, I can tell you what has helped me tremendously through this process.
1. Get essays started early. Having a little if any work on them is better than none and helps alleviate some of the pressure too.
2. It's OKAY  to say no. I don't know why it's so hard to say no to people, but as hard as we try, it's not possible for one person to do everything. It's just not! So don't shy away from saying no. You don't need to add yet another thing onto your plate
3. Schedule time to relax. No matter how busy you find yourself, give yourself something. Otherwise you'll just burn out. So maybe treat yourself to some funny youtube or vine videos if your short on time, go for a quick walk with your dogs, or take a bubble bath instead of a shower. Just give yourself some down time.

Good Luck!!

"Life Is Too Short"

Like I've said over and over again, stress has a tremendous impact on our body. Just see the picture i've put in!
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Crazy. So when I came across this article in the Huffingting Post "Life Is Too Short: 10 Things to Stop Tolerating" I thought I'd share it. Each of the things on this list can cause stress, which we don't need! So why not stop? Easier then it sounds, I know, but maybe just being more aware and hearing some times here and there would help. I think that one of the best part about the list is that it covers a broad range of topics, some of them we probably don't even realize we are doing/stressing over, like comparing ourselves to others. Others are more obvious, but all in all its a good list and a great starting place to start tackling those problems. Hope it helps :)

For the Busy Bees

So, still a little busy, as you can probably tell, but better than last week! Only a few days off this time. Anyway, if your like me and can get CRAZY busy, crazy fast, this post is for you. When I'm busy, it feels like I can forget what ways left and what ways right, I don't even think it possible how fast my brains juts from one thing to the next. And with a head like that, its almost impossible to think about the little daily things like exercising or eating right. But when your busy, even though it seems impossible, its important to take care of yourself. Not only can being busy make you stressed, but it can also weaken your emotional state,  and even your immune system too! So, bottom line, its important. But that doesn't mean we have to some how manage to try and squeeze in an extra hour of me time somewhere in our busy schedules, it can be much simpler ( or longer if you like). But heres a LINK to some ideas, 55 ideas actually to help you take care of yourself when your busy! Hope it helps!!

Stress-OUT

Sorry about not posting last week! Crazy how busy you can get. Anyway, this week I thought I'd keep it simple and share some interesting quotes. Yes quotes, sounds weird, but its actually kinda cool. They are all quote/tips from people who specialize in dealing with stress. The site is a British site, and is actually geared at city stress but I still thought it was applicable. Sometimes its nice to have a quote to stick to, and all these ones help battle stress-bonus!
So check it out here!

Stress Defense

Sometimes, the best way to deal with stress is to prevent it in the first place, i.e. finding a defense against stress. While I think determining what works for you is a process, I did find a great site this week that list a couple of good ideas that anyone could use. (Check it out here!) Some of these suggestions include regular exercise, making time for friends or family, and keeping well organized.  Personally,  my most important stress defense is scheduling enough alone time for myself. Im just that type of person who needs that time to introvert and figure things out for myself. But I think that a lot of time, we focus on just dealing with the stress we currently have, rather then trying to prevent it in the first place; I mean I know I'm defiantly guilt of that. So, I thought that maybe this week's blog could just be a little reminder to try and prevent it in the first place
. Hope your having a great summer! :)

A.N.T.s

Currently I'm reading a great book called Change Your Brain, Change Your Body by Dr. Amen. So far its been a very interesting read, and I've learned A LOT about the human brain. But one of the things in the book that caught my attention and seemed like a perfect fit for this blog was Dr. Amen's theory regarding ANT's ( or Automatic Negative Thoughts). Sometimes when were stressed are brains directs us toward these negative thoughts, anything from only focusing on the negative to blaming ourselves or others. Dr. Amen approaches ANTs like this: When your brain has a though, it releases chemicals. Thus, if you have a negative thought, your brain will release negative chemicals; chemicals that can make you feel tired, tense, or maybe even dizzy. Pretty simple right? So, if you want to feel better, you need to train yourself to let go of the ANTs. He recommends a system of "identifying and killing" your ANTS.  First you'd write out your ANT. Then you'd identify it. Is your ANT a always/never ANT (using vocal like always or never), or are you focusing on the negative, predicting negative thoughts about your future, thinking others are thinking negative things about you, believing negative feelings, having guilt, negatively labeling, negatively personalizing events, or blaming others?   Now after completely addressing and identifying your ANT like so, you need to kill it; you need to talk back and problem solve your negative thought. And volia! You slowly, by doing the above process, train yourself to limit your ANTs and make yourself feel better!